The “secret” to sustainable growth + transformation
Why learning to feel good rarely comes easy (at first)
Today, I want to clue you into a "transformational secret" that really isn't a secret. This is something that I share with my Nourished Women Mentorship clients and I want you to know this too.
Learning to live your life from a more nourishing, relaxing, joyous, fill-in-the blank-positive-emotion sounds amazing (in truth it feels pretty amazing). And it is totally feel-able and do-able, even in "today's world." ("Today's world" is in air quotes with an intentional sense of humor. In truth our perception and perspective of "the real world" really does come down to just that … our sense of perception and our shifting perspective).
BUT learning to live from this “feel good” place doesn't always come easy in the beginning. It rarely does.
If you are used to feeling like crap from absorbing the emotional density and fear-based emotions all around you, establishing a new more nourishing baseline takes practice. It also really, really helps to have a human guide who you can attune to, who has traversed that tricky landscape and who will help you to get there.
No one goes from feeling confused, depressed, anxious, stressed out, fearful and/or exhausted a lot of the time to BOOM just feeling amazing. No one.
We may live in a dysfunctional society that tries to sell us on “instant gratification” but that is not how regenerative and sustainable transformation actually works. This isn't Amazon Prime.
You live in a human body with a complex nervous system, that needs change to happen steadily over time. Learning to respect the capacity of your human nervous system is an integral part of the nourished paradigm. (Yes, slow and steady really does win the race. Although I assure you, your life isn't a race and it never was).
Another way of saying this is learning to live from a “feel good place” takes dedicated focus, repetition and attention. This is how we make life changes and learn new skills. To some of us consistency feels like work. This is where the resistance to change usually kicks in, leading some people to throw their hands up in frustration and give up. (I repeat, this is especially the case if we do not have the proper support system in place).
Healing Isn’t Linear
Leaving behind the old "depletion" fear-based way of living is a non-linear process. It also takes patience, curiosity and compassion with oneself. (A sense of humor certainly helps too!) Your brain, body and being are “unlearning” the old ways you used to operate while simultaneously learning new, healthier and more nourishing ways of moving through life. It is a simultaneous process of dismantling and releasing of the unhealthy patterns and limiting beliefs of the past while at the same time creating a fertile space for the new more nourishing ways of being to take root.
It will likely feel downright uncomfortable or impossible at times. This is especially true if you didn't grow up in family, a community or a culture that taught you how to establish a healthy “feel good” baseline of safety, love and nourishment.
Sometimes it can feel "heavier" before it feels lighter, sometimes the old patterns get louder before they shift. It's as if your ego is saying, "are you sure you are really committed to these new ways? We were so comfy and familiar with the old!" Even though the old ways were actually unhealthy and not serving you. (As an important aside, I find the simplest way to think about ego is that it is simply the habitual fear-based patterns of an overstimulated and dysregulated nervous system.)
When I was retraining my brain and nervous system to live from a more a nourishing place and operate at a more regenerative pace, I often had days where learning to let go of of the old patterns and trust in the new felt very uncomfortable. Honestly at times it felt a little crazy-making.
I want to reassure you, that it is ok if the old patterns, habits, emotions appear to be getting louder or worse before they shift. They aren't. It just appears to be that way. It is not a sign that you are going backwards. It is confirmation that you ARE TRANSFORMING at a deep level. You are recognizing that what used to be your baseline - a depleting and unhealthy baseline - is no longer acceptable and you are choosing a more nourishing way of life! This is a really good thing!
Each time you redirect your attention and make a more nourishing choice it's a win. Each time you do this you show those old unhealthy patterns that you are the Master of your life and that they do not get to run the show anymore.
What to do when it feels like nothing is happening
Because this is a nonlinear process there may be days where it feels like nothing is happening. And then one day “seemingly out of the blue” you realize your whole life is operating in a way that feels so much better and what once felt impossibly out of reach is now your new baseline. This is how sustainable growth and change happens for everyone. No one gets to cheat the process of learning something new without bumps in the road. No one.
Anytime you are attempting to make positive changes, you will receive much benefit in focusing on the positive shifts you have made and to pay attention to all the positive shifts you continue to make. In the nourished paradigm, no shift is too small to be worthy of celebration.
This is especially true when it feels like nothing is happening. The more you train your brain to focus on the positive, the more you notice the positive. Trust me it works. When I first realized this was true, it was like I found the secret to the universe. After all the human brain was built to be a super-computer pattern recognition machine. (You may not be able to hack the universe, but you can retrain your brain - which is kind of like hacking, right?)
One of the most helpful ways to step into the nourished paradigm is to focus on all the things that bring you joy and that feel good and to stop focusing on the old patterns, worries, fears that are dying away.
How can you tell the difference between the new and the old patterns? It's very simple. The new nourishing patterns FEEL GOOD, the old patterns DO NOT. It's a matter of continuing to redirect your attention onto what feels good and away from what does not. This is how you support ourselves in fully transitioning into the nourished paradigm as you exit the depletion paradigm.
What is truly nourishing for you, will likely look and feel very different then the way a majority of the world around you still operates — which is why this process is so hard, if not impossible, to do on your own.
This is why I created the Nourished Woman Mentorship program - a revolutionary 1:1 transformational mentorship program for women who are ready to break-up with the toxicity of hustle culture for good & step into a whole new paradigm of over-flowing vitality.
Learn about this life-changing, transformational mentorship program below:
The Nourished Woman Mentorship Program
The Nourished Woman Mentorship is a revolutionary, paradigm-shifting journey of transformation that will change your life for the better in infinite ways.
Together, we help you say goodbye to the old paradigm of burn-out + depletion as you step into a whole new paradigm of overflowing wellness + vitality.
The Nourished Woman is a private 1:1 mentorship program that supports ambitious, dynamic + deep women — who are also empathic, energetically sensitive + spiritually awake. This transformative mentorship is for women who are ready to break-up with the toxic stress of "hustle culture" and want to embrace a new paradigm of pleasure, ease and over-flowing vitality.
Do you desire a life beyond crash and burn-out cycles? Do you want to live in a sustainable way that supports the resilience of your body and your nervous system? Are you ready to break-up with the toxicity + depletion of “Hustle culture” for good. Then this is the program for you!
MEET JANA
“Part psychic vision, part energy support, part compassionate counsel.”
have a passion for guiding empaths, wisdom keepers, old souls, heroic healers and lightworkers like you to remember the true multidimensional nature of your Soul and weave yourself whole again.
As a New Paradigm Healer and Teacher, I am here to support the return of the Divine Feminine Consciousness and the rise of all Goddesses - including you - fully to Planet Earth. This is sacred, powerful, transformative work that is also practical, playful, grounded.
As a key part of the shift into this New Paradigm, I support women to heal their relationship to the Earth and with their bodies at a fundamental and functional level.
Weaving together a number of healing modalities and many years of experience, I serve as a Transformational Mentor, Spiritual Teacher and a Soul Mother to many. This includes working as both a Death Doula to your dying ego and a Mystical Midwife to your rebirthing Soul. Allowing you to live your life from more loving and joyful states of consciousness, in an embodied, easeful and down-to-earth way.
I firmly believe that everything in life is here to serve our highest evolution, from our darkest shadows and deepest wounds to our most profound moments of joy and bliss….
